There is a saying that “some things are best left unsaid “ or let me rephrase it an say that ,”some things should not be said at all” .How often we say things that we regret later , worse case –we don’t even regret . There are times we say “ I am sorry , I din’t mean it or I din’t want it to come out like that “ But the sad part is - it still did . Is an apology enough to heal a wounded heart or soul .When I say this I don’t mean that when we utter something wrong we shouldn’t apologize , off course we should , a heartfelt apology surely eases some pain…it acts like a pain killer…what does a pain killer do ????it takes the pain away?????no….it just numbs our senses so that we don’t feel the pain..which is very much there . In the very same way an apology makes us feel better ..but the pain is still there .Our effort should be that as much as we can we should try not to hurt anyone in the first place , and here I am not talking of physical injuries but the wounds caused by the words we utter .
These words could be a product of anger , frustrations , misunderstanding , emotional turbulence , attitude , arrogance etc . At times they stem out of our perceived feelings of superiority , at times because of the high of our money , status or role position .The source may be different but the end result is always the same –scaring a soul . I say something ill to someone - I hammer a nail in a wooden fence , later I realize I was wrong , I apologize –I remove the nail…But realize that even though the nail is removed the fence would never be the same again …it is scarred forever .
We often here campaigns saying , “Raise your voice against injustice “….but raising a voice without any reason can be a cause of injustice in itself..why do we need to scream or shout or yell at someone to prove a point…do we assume that the person spoke to is hard of hearing or do we assume that he/ she has no heart , mind or self respect .? Screaming never adds meaning to words , it just defeats the purpose of a conversation .What I have said so far is for people who victimize others with their harsh words and rudeness …It does not apply to those who at times have an outburst which is a result of a lot of repressed tears, anger ,feelings ….these are the people who usually don’t say anything to anybody but once in a while when they are pushed too much against the wall and they eventually break their silence..giving voice to their pent up emotions .It is also not for people whose words have worth and who raise their voice for the right against the wrong .
There is a fraction of a second between the occurrence of thought and the utterance of word..and how we use that time is what makes a difference…people who are wise and polite mould their thought in the right way considering the person in front , the situation ,the time , the matter and above all the need to be kind but those who are far from being soft spoken just yap it out in whatever way they feel like without even realizing that words can never be take back!
I am not here to sermonize , nor am I asking you to be meek or stupid nor am I saying that even if you see somebody trampling over Ur self respect keep quiet or be kind to him/her but all I am saying is that it is not always good to be liberal with your words…make each word worthy not a wound!!!!!!!!!