Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Watch your Words

There  is a saying  that  “some things  are  best  left  unsaid “  or  let  me  rephrase  it  an  say  that ,”some things  should  not be said  at  all” .How  often  we  say  things  that  we  regret  later , worse  case –we  don’t even  regret . There  are  times  we  say  “ I  am  sorry  , I din’t  mean it or I din’t want it to come  out like that “  But  the sad part is - it still did . Is  an apology  enough  to heal  a  wounded  heart or soul .When  I say this  I don’t  mean  that  when  we  utter  something  wrong  we  shouldn’t  apologize , off course  we should   , a heartfelt apology  surely  eases  some  pain…it acts  like  a  pain killer…what  does  a  pain killer  do ????it  takes  the  pain  away?????no….it  just  numbs  our  senses  so  that  we  don’t  feel  the  pain..which  is  very  much  there . In  the  very  same  way  an apology  makes  us  feel  better ..but the pain is  still there .Our  effort  should  be  that  as  much  as  we  can  we  should  try  not to hurt  anyone  in  the  first  place ,  and  here  I am  not  talking  of  physical  injuries  but  the  wounds  caused  by  the  words  we  utter .
These  words  could  be  a  product  of  anger , frustrations , misunderstanding , emotional  turbulence , attitude , arrogance  etc . At  times  they  stem  out  of  our  perceived  feelings  of  superiority  , at  times  because  of  the  high  of  our  money , status  or  role  position .The  source  may  be  different  but  the  end  result  is  always  the  same –scaring  a  soul . I say  something  ill to  someone  - I  hammer  a  nail  in  a  wooden fence , later  I  realize  I  was  wrong , I  apologize –I  remove  the  nail…But  realize  that  even  though  the  nail  is  removed  the  fence  would  never  be  the  same  again …it  is  scarred  forever .

We  often  here  campaigns  saying , “Raise  your  voice  against  injustice “….but  raising  a  voice  without  any  reason  can  be  a  cause  of  injustice  in  itself..why  do  we  need  to  scream  or  shout  or  yell at  someone  to  prove  a  point…do  we  assume  that  the  person  spoke  to  is  hard  of  hearing  or  do  we  assume  that  he/ she  has  no  heart  , mind  or  self  respect .? Screaming  never  adds  meaning  to  words ,  it  just  defeats  the  purpose  of  a  conversation .What  I  have  said  so  far  is  for  people  who  victimize  others  with  their  harsh  words  and  rudeness …It  does  not  apply  to  those  who  at times  have  an  outburst  which  is  a  result  of  a  lot  of  repressed  tears, anger ,feelings ….these  are  the  people  who  usually  don’t  say  anything  to  anybody   but  once  in a  while  when  they  are  pushed  too  much  against  the wall  and  they  eventually  break  their  silence..giving  voice  to their pent up emotions .It  is  also  not  for  people  whose  words  have  worth  and  who  raise  their  voice  for  the  right against  the  wrong .
There  is  a  fraction  of  a  second  between  the  occurrence  of  thought  and  the  utterance  of  word..and how  we  use  that  time  is  what  makes  a  difference…people  who  are  wise  and  polite   mould  their  thought  in  the  right  way  considering  the  person  in  front , the  situation ,the time , the matter  and  above  all  the  need  to  be  kind but  those  who  are  far  from  being  soft spoken  just  yap  it out  in  whatever  way  they  feel  like  without  even realizing  that  words  can  never  be  take  back!

I  am  not  here  to  sermonize ,  nor  am  I  asking  you  to  be  meek  or  stupid  nor am  I  saying  that  even  if  you see  somebody  trampling  over  Ur self  respect  keep  quiet  or  be  kind  to him/her  but  all  I  am  saying  is  that  it  is  not  always  good  to  be  liberal  with  your  words…make  each  word  worthy  not  a  wound!!!!!!!!!


  1. As easy as it sounds, its not. Yes we might scar someone by speaking out of anger or frustration etc but emotions are spontaneous things Parzi. u cannot say to urself I m going to be extremely focused not to blow my fuse. It happens without u knowing or wanting to.

    Only things we can do is try not to. And heal the person we hurt inadvertently. coz no matter what, if the wound was not meant to be given willingly, it cannot stay forever. the person would know it n our love after can be like phoenix tears than regular painkillers.

    That's my belief.

    1. hieeeeee leo
      thank u soooooo much for being the first one to read yet again n for that insightful comment...i agree with u...its not in our hands always..but like i have mentioned the exceptions to my viewpoint n i just feel that if we start watching r words..lot of misunderstandings, pain n troubles can be saved:)
      thanks a ton for sharing ur view point leo...i really appreciate n like it:)

  2. Look before you leap and think before you talk!

    A nice post. One must also watch out for swear words.

    1. hieeeee...
      thanks a lot for reading n liking the post...n u r absolutely right..thanks for sharing ur opinion..:)

  3. It's painful not to say sometimes. It's really unbearable sometimes that we finally just spit out..

    but then i've made a mess of things a lot of tme so i'd rather shut up and think and then may be have a say..

    difficult but

  4. Well written article. Glad to read you after a long time. Thanks for this insightful article!