Develop Understanding Not Misunderstanding...

We our all blessed with a lot of beautiful relationships in our life..a few are the ones we are born with and there are others that we make on our own..whatever be the name,whatever be the reason the bottom line is they are all very important to us..they are the ties that join our hearts and make us realize that we are not alone..a friend of mine once told me"that we our all capable of living alone..statements like this that we can't live without so and so..are rubbish..when we have to ,then we have to..there is no room for weakness then..our survival instincts keep us going.."
partially I agree with her that yes when we have to then we have to........n off course we can survive..but then its just survival..its not living...living is when you can smile seeing somebody else happy,somebody Else's grief brings tears to your eyes, you rejoice in somebody Else's success..a life lived for and with others is a life lived worthwhile..
and today these bondings of the heart and relationships of years break in seconds..reason???MISUNDERSTANDING!
What is misunderstanding..when we try to convey something else and something else gets conveyed..ideas get jumbled up..misconceptions are formed and we chose to drift away from people whom we least want to..for me misunderstanding has its literal meaning ..yes..its is not a wrong interpretation of thought,words or intentions but a lack of understanding as the word rightly conveys..the understanding is missing..and this takes place when we stop listening,we stop talking,we stop thinking when we stop making that extra effort to go a little deep into things and taking that extra step and conveniently accept what appears on the surface..and let go off our precious ones..and i guess all of us have misunderstood someone or the other in our life or have been misunderstood by someone..communication is the answer but is does an explanation always justify everybody..may be not..and at times a wrong question asked in a wrong manner,at the wrong time proves to be the biggest question mark on a relationship and the trust on which it is formed and may leave behind a scar forever..and apologies and time don't always heal all wounds..
so if you say to someone"I trust you.."..then make sure you do
if you say "I understand.."then at least try to..
if you say"I am there..."..then show that you care..
we all have some beautiful bonds with some beautiful people in our lives..people we can't imagine or lives without..lets value those special souls and those special relationships and handle them with love and care and not allow a stupid misunderstanding to creep in and create distance between hearts..because if we let that happen then later we might be missing the only person who understood us.......!

[p.s:..sounds like a serious saddening post..witnessed a few people ruining their relationships,losing their special people and saying"there had been some misunderstanding"...sounds simple but is hell difficult when we have to go through it..I know everything in life does not have a solution and not everybody is worth staying in our lives but as the famous saying goes"That sometime later we realize that we lost diamonds while we were busy collecting stones"..so be careful..don't take your loved ones for granted and show them that you value them.and remember no misunderstanding is bigger than a true relationship..[sorry if sounds like a sermon..or a boring lecture...just wanted to share an opinion]..God bless you all]